Adoptive Stage (Adoptive Status)

It is a great feeling right from the moment the child comes home. Agreed?
Welcome to the exclusive club of happy and lucky parents made possible by your adopted child (VIP! ). Parents keep looking at the child and forget the world. The child calls you Amma/Appa and every time you feel you have been granted a new life.

Are we right if we decide that 'now that we are all happy, why tell the
child about adoption and create problems'
Every child has a right to information. No genuine relationship can be based on fears of being found out. It pays to be honest right from the onset. You have no choice - better tell.

We are anxious that our child may search for its roots? !
The right of adopted children to find out about their biological parents is equivalent to the parents' right to confidentiality. But do discuss the birth mother's circumstances and reasons for abandonment, without blaming her. The more open and agreeable you are to the idea of 'search' with your child, the lesser is the interest of the child to actually search for the roots.

What is the need of a support group such as Su-datta ?
The child benefits from interaction with other adopted children. Parents can discuss all their experiences and problems in a group which can understand and make practical suggestions. Workshops and interactive activities help both parents and children to cope better with any emotional conflicts they face.